Who hurt you? We have all been asked that question when we have been through something physically or emotionally. People ask us that when they can tell something has occurred in our lives and the pain is showing, it is like a bright and shiny Las Vegas casino sign and often they are right, you are hurt. It could either be something recent or something that has taken it is time to truly heal.
The question, “Who hurt you?” really can be irritating and the reason why is because people seem to think that the hurt is still there, that you are pondering over it and tears can not stop falling down your face but sometimes you are completely over it however the situation is a scar and it is still in the healing phase. It is not an open wound but it is also not a small scab. People see that healing phase and think that you are still pained and hurt by whatever you have been through.
There are times when there are certain situations that come your way that are unexpected, you did not want it nor did you think it would last but it did and then suddenly it ends. We all have a coping mechanism. Each different to different pains we feel. We all know how to deal with problems that hurt us, some of us are calling the girls at 03:00, others are crying in our pillows, and others have to put it out there in the world as a mark or status about their current situation and some deal with it alone, losing sleep because the brain will not shut down because of the DMC that is occurring. However, you deal with your hurt, the most important thing is that you are dealing with it.
So that brings us to a story in the bible where it deals with hurt. There was this king named David and David had everything. One day he saw a woman named Bathsheba, bathing and because he was the king, he wanted her and summoned her to the palace, they slept together. However, Bathsheba was married and so he had her husband put on the front line of the army he was killed, and soon after Bathsheba fell pregnant.
Nathan answered, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You will not die. But what you did cause the Lord’s enemies to lose all respect for him. For this reason, the son who was born to you will die.”
Then Nathan went home. And the Lord caused the son of David and Bathsheba, Uriah’s widow, to be very sick. David prayed to God for the baby. David fasted and went into his house and stayed there, lying on the ground all night. The elders of David’s family came to him and tried to pull him up from the ground, but he refused to get up or to
eat food with them.
On the seventh day, the baby died. David’s servants were afraid to tell him that the baby was dead. They said, “Look, we tried to talk to David while the baby was alive, but he refused to listen to us. If we tell him the baby is dead, he may do something awful.” When David saw his servants whispering, he knew that the baby was dead. So he asked them, “Is the baby dead?”
They answered, “Yes, he is dead.” Then David got up from the floor, washed himself, put lotions on, and changed his clothes. Then he went into the Lord’s house to worship. After that, he went home and asked for something to eat. His servants gave him some food, and he ate“.
David’s servants said to him, “Why are you doing this? When the baby was still alive, you fasted and you cried. Now that the baby is dead, you get up and eat food
David said, “While the baby was still alive, I fasted, and I cried. I thought, ‘Who knows? Maybe the Lord will feel sorry for me and let the baby live.’ But now that the baby is dead, why should I fast? I can not bring him back to life. Someday I will go to him, but he cannot come back to me.” – 2 Samuel 13-23
Although David knew that his child was going to die, this was his own coping mechanism. It did not mean that it hurt any less to know that the child he created with Bathsheba would die but this was his way of healing and preparing himself for the pain and loss of his child and yes the Lord was disappointed in Him and warned him through Nathan the angel that his sins have caused the Lord to lose respect for him.
The point is that David understood that the hurt would come and he had his own way of dealing with it and understanding that although he is dealing with it, it does not make it any less painful. So you can be dealing with something or have dealt with it, it does not mean that you are perpetually stuck in that moment, in that time of hurt.
If you are dealing with something here are a few words to live on; you will get to a point where you will decide on the way forward that is best for you. It might be not talking about it, it might be talking all day about it, it might be changing a few things or not changing anything at all, it is your story you come to a point where the decision you make has to respect and align with your peace. If it is going to give you peace to talk about it and help others from the failed rules you have broken and awful Joe’s you have been through then do but also if you make a decision during your prayer time that gives you peace then do so.
If you have dealt with something then you know that it was your own journey to go through, sometimes it may not look like you are over it but you know yourself. It took time and patience. At the end of the day, you need to understand that you did what was best for you, and though the scar will always be there, it is also a beautiful lesson in your life story.
Ultimately hurt sucks. David knew it, which is why though pained by his loss he also had his own way of dealing with it. Do not focus on the hurt, go through it, it needs to happen but eventually, look at the lesson and what it may have taught you because there is beauty in every pain.
We hope that it allows you to think about how you deal with your hurt and maybe if there are better ways to deal with it drop us an email and maybe discuss it on our social media (soltheblog@gmail.com) or follow us on IG and Twitter (@express_sol)
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